Monday, May 12, 2014

It's Lucy Time!

I'm in Spokane visiting my mom right now. We're having a great visit, made even better by the extra visitors that arrived on Saturday. Before I get to that bit I have a couple of stories to share with you. The day before I got here my mom went to her hairdresser. This might not seem like a big deal, but in my mom's case it is. Her hairdresser, the one she insists is the only one that can do her hair properly, is an hour's drive away, near where my parents had their farm. Add to this the fact my mom's driving is sketchy at the best of times and, well, you can see why something a simple as a haircut and perm can be a cause for concern.

When I got here Friday afternoon my mom proceeded to tell me about her adventure the day before. She said towards the end of her appointment the hairdresser started talking strangely. Then when my mom got to her car and was having a hard time focusing it slowly dawned on her the problem wasn't the hairdresser, it was her. My mom is diabetic and her blood sugar had gone extremely low. Instead of going back into the shop and asking for help, she dug around in he purse to find something to eat. She finally discovered a Halloween size packet of M&Ms, ate them, then started driving back to Spokane. She said the next thing she remembered was "waking up" and realizing she had missed the turn-off for Spokane and was partway to Couer d'Alene.

Then Saturday morning we headed out to do some errands, one of which was to fill up my mom's gas tank. My mom has never filled her own tank. Because, thankfully, she doesn't drive very much (please refer to the paragraph above), she somehow manages to make it until my brother or I come to visit before she needs more gas. I'm more than happy to gas up my mom's car. What I'm not so happy about is the fact she won't let me adjust the rear view mirror or side mirrors because she doesn't know how to put them back where she needs them.

In order to see out the rear view mirror I have to lean my head against the side window and scrunch down a few inches. When I point out to my mom this makes it rather difficult to back out of her garage stall, she tells me to just go straight and not turn the wheel and I'll be okay. I counter with the fact that I still need to make sure there's nobody behind me, and my mom passes on more driving advice. "Just go. That's what I do. I figure if someone is there they'll see me and stop."

Saturday afternoon we had visitors from Victoria! Karsten is on holiday for a couple weeks, and they decided to spend some of that time on the Oregon coast. When they found out I was going to be in Spokane this weekend they decided it would be nice to swing by on their trip to Oregon so my mom could see Lucy. I don't think my mom could have had a better Mother's Day present! Here they are getting reacquainted.


Almost every picture I took was blurry. This baby never stops moving!


She loved exploring around her great grandma's apartment.



Getting Lucy to pose for pictures is not easy...


Maybe the trick is to let her take selfies...


I'm fairly certain that any baby who is more interested in yarn than food is going to be a knitter...


Early exposure can't hurt...


This morning Lucy heads off to Oregon, and my mom and I have a few more errands to run before I head home tomorrow. I'm not sure we'll get everything checked off our list, but I do know this. I will be driving, and we will be in my own vehicle.

Edit:

My mom just asked me what my blog post was about. Oops...

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  1. Hee, hee....you're in big trouble now. What did you tell her....I hope you left out the first part and said it was about Lucy! It sounds like you need to get her a car that has 2 memories for seat/side mirror settings. My 14-year-old mini-van has one and it was great when my 6-4 teenage sons drove it. It also wouldn't hurt for her to have a back-up alarm that sounds outside the car! Yikes! I can see why you might worry about her. Lucy is a doll. How old is she now? Mine is just one month. We got to see her yesterday for an hour. She looks at me now with more intensity and seems to like my voice when we're cheek to cheek.

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    1. Ha! That's exactly what I did, Cathy. Now I have to hope she doesn't read this post. :-)

      Lucy is almost ten months old already, which is hard to believe. In no time at all your granddaughter will be that old!

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  2. Goodness I'm glad your mother is on the other side of the world, amazing she has the nerve to still drive. As always Lucy is gorgeous, and the exposure to yarn to great, both the boys love to "knit". And if your mother reads your blog, then maybe its a good thing, tell her to go by cab it will be safer for all concerned

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    1. Yes, yet another good reason to be living in England, Sue. :-) A taxi would be great if we could convince her to use one. So far she has dug her heels in and refused.

      I'm pleased to hear your grandsons are also being introduced to knitting. All those wonderful things you make them must make them want to learn how to knit. The trick is to introduce it and get them interested without acting too enthused. Kids can be tricky that way.

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  3. Your mum is quite a character I dare say. I did for a moment recognise myself in this story because I used to think there was no good hairdresser in this country and I would only have my hair cut back in Switzerland. A long journey for a hair cut. Lucy is just adorable and it is excellent news that she likes yarn. You look far two young to be her grandmother Kristie!

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    1. Yes, she's a character, but in a fun way. Except the driving. That is just downright scary. That's funny you used to feel the same way about getting your hair cut. Switzerland makes my mom's drive to our old farming community look pretty tame by comparison! And thank you for your kind words, but I can assure you I am definitely old enough to be Lucy's grandmother. :-)

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  4. I love Lucy's selfie. Tell your Mum to always have a Mars Bar handy. Goodness knows I do (and I'm not even diabetic).

    Leanne xx

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    1. Isn't that selfie hilarious? I'll pass on the Mars Bar suggestion. You might not be diabetic, but you are the mother to several children. Chocolate is a necessity, so you are wise to keep some on hand. :-)

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  5. I once knew people who were concerned about Grandma's driving, but they were certain she would never consent to having her car and license taken away. So they took to "borrowing" her car a lot. She would tell my mother-in-law, "I'm taking taxis so much these days - my family keeps borrowing my car!" Everybody seemed fairly happy with the arrangement - Grandma got to be generous and the family kept her off the road.

    Lucy is adorable!

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    1. I like the borrowing idea, but unfortunately there isn't anyone who lives nearby who can borrow the car on a regular basis. It's a worry.

      We're all quite smitten with Lucy. :-)

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  6. I know that scary feeling when your parents are not driving in top form. We finally took the keys away from my dad, which seemed like a nasty trick, but at least he (and others!) are now safe. He just had no road sense anymore. How nice that you could all visit together ... Lucy is adorable and I love the blurry arms in her photos ;) My brother & his family are in Victoria too! Have a great week. Wendy x

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    1. It's a difficult thing to deal with, Wendy. That must have been hard to take your dad's keys away, but also a relief to know he's now safe. Have you been out to Victoria to visit your brother? It's a beautiful place!

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  7. Ah, the great driving debate! Yes, a very tricky one indeed. You will work it out though I am sure. Lucy is a darling isn't she!! Love her selfie and the way that the yarn is creeping in!! Hope that you have a good journey home after a good visit. xx

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    1. Thanks Amy! Lucy is quite the charmer.

      It's a long drive home tomorrow, but I have a couple Audible books loaded on my iPhone to listen to. That should make the trip a little less boring. And I have some chocolate to eat which doesn't hurt either. :-)

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  8. I'm glad your mom was okay driving herself home. I always enjoy your posts about her, you have a real way with describing your concerns for her without being patronizing. I can understand why you're all so nervous about her driving. I remember when my mother's dad had to stop driving. He was angry about it. I hope when the time comes your mom will be okay with it. I'm so glad you had time with Lucy, and that your mom was able to see her too. She is a beautiful baby and getting so big now. Thanks for sharing your visit. I hope you had a wonderful Mother's Day.

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    1. It was a great Mother's Day, Jennifer. And it was fun being with Diana, who was celebrating her very first Mother's Day. It sounds like you had a very nice Mother's Day too. :-)

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  9. What was your answer about the post???

    It's so nice to have each generation represented at a Mother's Day gathering. I know your mom was happy to see all of you, even if Lucy was the star attraction. About the car, is there anyone in the family badly in need of a vehicle? Perhaps she would be wiling to sell the car to him/her to help them out.

    PS - Christina is right.

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    1. I told her it was about Lucy. Which, technically, was a true but possibly incomplete answer. :-)

      Good idea about selling the car, but my mom would never agree to it. I think we need to work on having her agree to no more out of town trips. But I don't think my brother and I will succeed. Stubbornness runs in our family, and it came from my mom's side. :-)

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  10. Mmmm, your Mum is so much like my Dad was a few years ago, Kristie. In Australia the doctor can impose a 'restricted' licence, which Dad's doctor did, the proviso being no driving on the highway, and only within 10 km of home. Some time later we discovered he had taken the neighbours for a Sunday drive, on the highway, about 30-40km from home, and never mentioned the restriction. He would not have been covered for insurance if involved in an accident. Eventually the doc refused permission for renewal of licence, and at least Dad resented the doctor, not the family.
    Lucy is without a doubt the most adorable little grand-daughter, especially in that pretty dress! She obviously made Mother's Day complete for every generation of Mums in your family.

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    1. I'm not sure if there are restricted licences where my mom lives. I'll have to check into that, Patricia. That's very scary that your dad took people out for a drive and wasn't covered by his insurance. :-(

      It was a very special Mother's Day with Lucy - my mom was so happy to be able to see her again. And of course, so was I!

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    2. "Eventually the doc refused permission for renewal of licence, and at least Dad resented the doctor, not the family."

      Same with my mom, except we never let on it was my brother who tipped off the doctor in the first place.

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  11. My dad ended up selling his mum's car for similar reasons. In her case though she often couldn't start it anyway and we were moving her down to where we live so she was safe (she wasn't safe at home anymore unfortunately and needed assisted care). I have to say the fact that your mum just backs without looking scares me, someone did that to me the other day, yes, I saw him coming, but he was backing too fast for me to get out the way! Hope she doesn't have any accidents!

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    1. Oh no - did the person actually hit you? I was backed into a couple years ago (on Mother's Day) when I was down here with my mom, and it was a police car that backed into me! I'm glad you were able to move your grandmother to a safe place, closer to family and good care. It can be quite a challenge.

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  12. Oh dear, the perennial driving worry. :-( We're getting some of that with my dear mother-in-law, though she does just drive to the shops in the village now. In the UK the licence of an elderly person can be withdrawn for health reasons. Mum isn't yet at that stage, but I think it will come before too long.

    Lucy is such a charmer with her big dark eyes and lovely feathery hair. Great to see the growing fascination with yarn. :-)

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    1. A licence can be revoked in Canada too, although physicians seem very reluctant to take that step. I'm not sure about in the US. I don;t think my mom is quite to the point of needing her licence taken away. If we could just convince her to not drive out of the city I think she would be fine for awhile longer. Sorry to hear you are dealing with the same issue. It seems many of us are.

      Yes, Lucy is quite the charmer. :-)

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  13. Oh my goodness, well that is some story! And by the way her hair does look pretty great! Love the pictures of Lucy on the move, clear or blurry she is adorable.
    Hugs,
    Meredith

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    1. This made me laugh! Yes, her hair looks nice. I hadn't thought about that. I was too busy worrying about her driving horror story! :-)

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  14. What a wonderful way to celebrate Mother's Day with you altogether. Those are wonderful family pictures and I also love Lucy's selfie! I'm glad she is taking after you with her interest in wool!
    My Dad suddenly decided to stop driving, I'm sure he had an accident and the car had disappeared by the time I visited him. It is hard to give up that independence that means so much. Sarah x

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    1. It was a very lovely Mother's Day, Sarah. :-)

      That was fortunate that your dad decided on his own to give up driving, although if it was sudden like that you're right - he most likely had gotten into an accident.

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  15. It's so hard to get photos of lousy little ones isn't it? What a sweetheart she is and looks so pretty in aher little summer dress too. Happy belated Mother's Day, so nice you could spend it all together. Your poor Mum with her driving. I think everyone let out a collective sigh when my Grandfather gave up his license aged 85......Mel xxx

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    1. It's very hard, Mel, as you well know! I must have deleted 20 pictures for every one I kept. :-)

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  16. Lucy is looking adorable, as always. It's a shame your mother's driving is such a cause for concern. It must be terribly difficult to know when it's time to give up (or restrict?) one's license, for personal safety as well as the safety of others.

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    1. It's really hard knowing what the right thing is to do. I think my brother and i are going to have to talk it over and come up with a plan.

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  17. Lucy is such a little cutie isn't she? I imagine you spend quite a bit of time worrying about your mum, she needs emergency chocolate in the car at least.
    There is a very good reason why I've told on one I write a blog, then they can't ask (or worse still read it!)

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    1. That was a good plan with the blog. My mom sometimes reads mine, but she is always forgetting how to use her iPad, so I'm hoping she doesn't suddenly remember and read through this post. I could be in big trouble! :-)

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  18. My husband is diabetic and low blood sugars can be very scary, especially when behind the wheel of a car. So, so glad your mom only missed her turn off. Paul (my husband) called me once from his car because his sugar was so low, he got lost. He couldn't even tell me where he was. He ended up finding his way home, miraculously, but I was a mess,

    I think Lucy gets cuter by the day!

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  19. Your Lucy is just adorable. I can imagine the fun you have with her. I can relate to your story of your Mom and driving. My Mom who is in her 90's still drives a little even though we have tried to get her to give it up. I keep saying I'm going to "borrow" her car and just keep it.

    Darla

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